Then there are the times when she just outright denies things, like saying she doesn't have to go to the bathroom when she clearly does. Or, she'll go into the other room and tell Ben that I said it was okay if she has another cookie. I didn't. I guess she is just trying to manipulate us, to see what she can get away with.
The other day, she told me that she and her preschool friend Ella did not want to play with another boy in their class, Sam, because Sam "was being mean to them." I was concerned, and asked her what Sam was doing. Well, it turned out he just wasn't following their specific instructions for HOW to play with them. I informed Clare that is not the same thing as being mean. (I think Clare will face this problem a lot in her life. She has very specific ideas about how things need to be.)
Then, though, she told me another story. She said that every time she plays with another little girl at her school, the girl pulls Clare's hair. Is this true, or is it just another tale? I asked her what the teachers did about this, and she said, and I quote, "The teacher never sees it." Hmmm, again.
I am going to mention it to her teacher, just in case. Clare didn't seem all that upset by it, or I would call her immediately. I also want Clare to deal with her own problems, though, and I am sure she will also be faced with a little hair pulling now and then.
Of course, now that she has this new, shorter cut, maybe she won't.
So how do you handle your child's truthiness? I am hoping this is normal, but maybe it's not?
In other Clare news, she is so excited to be able to play outside again. (Yes, it's cold again. But it won't last, right?) Last week, when I asked Clare if she wanted to ride her bike outside, you would have thought it was Christmas morning. She was jumping up and down and shrieking with glee. She was seriously more excited than I have ever seen her. Except maybe when she sees her cousin Josie.
She is loving school, and despite her bossiness her teacher told me she has lots of friends. She is already busy planning picnics (complete with guest list) and her birthday party in June. She really wants to celebrate her birthday at school because apparently the kids get to be the line leader and hold the maracas? A big thrill, I know. Sadly for Clare, her birthday will almost always fall outside of the school year. I don't know if they'll do anything for the summer birthday kids or not.
She talks constantly - her vocabulary is huge and she is funny. She loves to tell knock knock jokes that she makes up herself. Those are pretty hit or miss, but I laugh sometimes. Just not when she tells me to.
We start soccer tonight, and Ben is going to be her coach. Hopefully that will keep her fear at bay. She still has trouble starting new things, but she is very aware of this fact. I hope this helps her learn to cope quickly. She is already much better than she was, partly because I understand her temperament so much better now that I can help her prepare.
I am sure I'll say more about this in her birthday post in a few months, but age 3 been tough. I am looking forward to this summer and age 4. And lots of warm weather!
|She walked around the house in this get-up for hours.|