tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-39021260008541038.post7136445676375870268..comments2021-10-14T19:31:18.981-05:00Comments on You Be The Mom: TruthinessEmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03241811069940971926noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-39021260008541038.post-10512545259940985052015-03-24T07:35:28.282-05:002015-03-24T07:35:28.282-05:00We've also discovered which parent has more pa...We've also discovered which parent has more patience for this kind of thing. It's now become routine that I bring him to the "firsts" of everything - swimming lesson, K orientation, etc. - because I don't lose my cool at all, let alone how fast Jon can sometimes. Mason also seems to appreciate me around for those moments, and they tend to go a bit easier. Letting them sit with you and get a feel for the situation is always a good first step. :)A.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17918415034987411623noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-39021260008541038.post-45328673132986082192015-03-23T21:42:17.997-05:002015-03-23T21:42:17.997-05:00We don't have a physical calendar, but I alway...We don't have a physical calendar, but I always tell Clare what is coming up, especially if it is something that I know will make her nervous. If we talk about it the night before, it helps her mentally prepare. That seems to work for her, although we still have our meltdowns. Usually, if she sits with me for a bit she'll work up the courage to participate in whatever it is.Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03241811069940971926noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-39021260008541038.post-6356298452497265422015-03-23T11:51:44.844-05:002015-03-23T11:51:44.844-05:00We already have some truthiness with Ruby. It'...We already have some truthiness with Ruby. It's totally normal. But it does make it hard when they tell you something that maybe you should intervene about (kids hitting at daycare or whatever). If it makes you feel any better, my sister was the truthiness-est of all: She told her preschool teacher that my dad died the night before class one day and she also told my mom that they had a bomb scare at school...among many other classics. she turned out to be a normal and very honest person.... :) willikathttp://willikat.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-39021260008541038.post-87451514277870567512015-03-23T09:17:18.990-05:002015-03-23T09:17:18.990-05:00For Adam, we help him cope with new situations wit...For Adam, we help him cope with new situations with a dry-erase calendar on the fridge. He checks that calendar all the time. Knowing what's coming up gives him a sense of control. <br /><br />I still remember his first t-ball game and how nervous he was. I thought we had psyched him up (he'd only been playing ball in our backyard since he could walk!), but once we got to the field and he saw kids he didn't know, he went into shut-down mode. He wouldn't wear his jersey (fine), he wouldn't sit on the bench (I let him sit on my lap), he did NOT want to play, even though Aaron was the coach. I didn't let him skip out on the game, though ... instead, I went out on the field with him. After a few games, he was wearing the uniform, sitting on the bench, and looking forward to game nights. (And now he's obsessed with All Things Sports.)<br /><br />It's hard when you have a scared/anxious child because you want to support them, encourage them, and be his/her "soft place to land," but you also know life is all about new experiences, so you have to teach them to cope (and eventually persevere). Adam's anxiety has gotten so much better with time/age, but there are still "firsts" that get him all worked up (and probably always will), it's just the way he's wired. <br /><br />P.S.<br />I LOVE Clare's personality!!! And her sense of fashion. (Cute haircut, too!)CMShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01748652964281422394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-39021260008541038.post-10722033063818944642015-03-23T08:10:16.795-05:002015-03-23T08:10:16.795-05:00Truthiness is interesting. Whenever we ask Mason a...Truthiness is interesting. Whenever we ask Mason about his day, he doesn't have much to say - then we add leading questions and he'll say "Yes, we played the xylophone in music." Did he really? Or does he just not remember and we placed a memory in his head? We also question #2 sometimes - did he really go?<br /><br />Mason, too, still has trouble starting new things. He's SO much better than even 6 months ago, but he's nervous about swimming starting again tomorrow. I can understand this anxiety, and for things that make him so nervous, I wouldn't push too hard. But people need to know how to swim! It also always go better after that first lesson...<br /><br />How do you help Clare prepare? Do you have tips that work?A.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17918415034987411623noreply@blogger.com